Isnt’ it funny how pregnancy can both fly by and drag at the same time? I’m one of those “weird” people who love being pregnant. Oh some of the side effects of pregnancy (puking, exhaustion, discomfort) are not fun but I still love the time I spend pregnant. My great-grandmother once told me when she was in her 90s that the one thing she missed from her younger life was being pregnant. She had 8 kids so she must have! đ Â I’m going to cry buckets when we have our last baby!
In some ways I really want this pregnancy to go slow. I want to relax and enjoy it, BUT at the same time I want it to fly by because that means my husband will finally be heading home! With Harper I felt like every second of every day was spent thinking about the pregnancy/baby, analyzing every twinge and cramp, daydreaming about baby gear and clothes….this pregnancy couldn’t be more different! I feel so bad that I haven’t even thought about a nursery (because this time I know the baby will be in our room for quite awhile so what is the point?). I don’t even remember I’m pregnant during a good part of the day because I am so busy chasing a crazy toddler around. No time for daydreaming here! I’m still determined to take bump photos and try to keep with blogging about this experience because I want something to look back on (I’m still devastated that all my blogs from Harper’s pregnancy were lost to internet outer space). I guess this is going to be the new normal around here….divided mommy attention!
Last week Dan told me that it is looking very likely he will not make it back in time for the birth. We knew it was a risk but were confident he could get back. Now he is there and seeing how things are being done and it became obvious that unless something big changes or this kiddo goes to 42wks he will not be here. I had Harper at 38wk 5days and my midwife expects me to go around 38wks again (I guess it is common for second babies to come early if first did plus she said most of her military moms with deployed husbands go earlier than other moms…..she guesses it is the stress combined with not being able to slow down at the end due to other children’s needs!).
Obviously this was not happy news. I was surprised with how well I took it (I’m guessing hormones will hit later and I’ll react more!) but Dan took the news pretty hard. I finally pulled out of my funk for him to drop into one 𦠠I’m not afraid to deliver without him and as long as he isn’t in transit we should be able to skype during delivery so he can still be “there”. Not ideal but what is in the military? For now we are taking the motto “Prepare for the worst, hope for the best, and accept what happens”. Part of the preparing is hiring a doula. We considered getting one with Harper since neither one of us knew what to expect and I knew I wanted a med-free birth….but money was tight at the time and we decided that we would be fine with Dan as my coach. He did great and I had an amazing med-free birth so we hadn’t even considered needing one this time. However if he is going to be gone then having someone with me will be helpful. If nothing else having someone to help me get to the hospital and take pictures!!! đ I found someone highly recommended in the area and our first official meeting to go over everything is Friday. Not sure what to expect but I feel good knowing I’m at a good hospital with midwives and a doula this time. The few annoying things I had to fight during my delivery with Harper shouldn’t be an issue this time!
Now to figure out what the heck I’m going to do with Harper when the time comes! Lets hope things start during the day when babysitters are easier to find!
The only other thing big going on in the Thurow household has been potty training! I’m going to write a separate post about our adventure but I am happy to say we are about 95% done!!! Yay! My baby is a all grown-up!
Week 17 photo:
I look about the size I did at 24wks with Harper! How big is this kid?! Comparison:
Weekly Update:
- How far along? 17wks, 2 days
- How big is baby? 5.5inches and around 5ozs! The size of a sweet potato
- Total weight gain/loss: approx (+) 5lbs!
- Stretch marks? Nope, I’m still nervous though
- Sleep: Missing in action 𦠠I’m starting to get some back pain when I lay too long and Harper wakes up at least once at night to go potty so I’m a walking zombie most days.
- Best moment this week: The week is still young
- Movement: Random kicks and nudges…not very frequent but getting stronger when they happen!
- Food cravings: Still love orange juice but nothing else. No appetite is annoying
- Gender: Team Green!
- Labor Signs: Not for a long time hopefully
- Belly Button in or out? In but still flattening at a scary rate
- What I miss: Sleep and wine.
- What I am looking forward to: Anatomy scan!!
- Weekly Wisdom: I’m finding out I’m a lot stronger than I thought I was
- Milestones: Nothing this week
Only 2 more weeks until our big ultrasound! We won’t find out the sex but I can’t wait to see little one and hear that everything is ok in there! I am sad about going alone to it….there was so much crazy drama around Dan trying to get to Harper’s big ultrasound! I know he would do that much and more to be here this time but it just won’t be 𦠠Luckily they will make a DVD of it for me to send to him. That is better than nothing!